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My First Blog Post

Be yourself; Everyone else is already taken.

— Oscar Wilde.

This is the first post on my new blog. I’m just getting this new blog going, so stay tuned for more. Subscribe below to get notified when I post new updates.

Who are you?

I stumbled on this amazing quote one day while online:

Most people are just mirrors, they reflect the personality of others; instead be a flashlight, no matter what, keep shining through! 

Powerful words there if you ask me. You see, it’s so easy to say, I love me, I’m proud to be me, I am happy being an achiever, and so on… But pause for a second and ask yourself, ” Realistically, who am I?” Sounds like an easy question to many but a careful consideration of this seemingly straight forward question might open the door to a myriad of doubts.

Come to think of it, when was the last time you took a decision after weighing your options carefully? Where you truly convinced that this was your choice and you weren’t in any way acting under the influence of whims and caprices of someone else? Can you stand by your convinctions? Are you simply a persona created just to blend in with the shade of crowd, to fit in with the others? Now I’m certain you’re thinking retrospectively.

You may believe this but listen up, there is only one corner of the universe that you can change and that is you! That’s right! You have a right to make your choices and stick by them even when the going gets tough. Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying consultation or advice is wrong but don’t do something just because everyone else is doing same. Before embarking on any path, make sure this is what you really want, ensure that you will be able to weather whatever storms might come along as a result of your chosen course and don’t just act because everyone says or feels that there are benefits.

And the next time you are tempted to follow the crowd, please a friend or some friends by doing what they want or to prove a point ( for example, that you dare), remember these words:

I am me. I know I have flaws but I am working on my life to become the best person I could possibly be. No one on Earth is perfect enough or deserves to be a replacement for me. I am unique in my own right. I and who I was born to be!

 

VICTIM

This might sound really strange, awkward, uncalled for,even insane, but is entirely truth; nothing but the truth.

I am a VICTIM. Indeed, a victim of burning hate, prolonged depression, ridicule, segregation, anxiety disorders, mental and emotional trauma too. I feel like no one understands me and worse yet, that no one ever will.

I am discriminated against on the basis of my religion, gender, psychological and physical strengths and weaknesses. My educational strides, career, goals and choices are a major confluence town for haters too. So-called friends, workmates,school mates and acquaintances through their thoughtless words and actions have engraved so beautifully on me, ghastly marrow-deep emotional scars, the kind that just have not cannot and might never heal.

There are these moments that I am so overwhelmed by the large stack of pain resting on my fragile shoulders. As of habit, I struggle hard to conceal my feelings of worthlessness, put better still, an admixture of inferiority complex and shame. But at other times, I lose everything all – I mean my guts and WITS. Whenever I try to be sociable, smile and mingle, I always get the line – “you’re becoming too social, in short wild.” And on those days I make conscious effort to curtail this easy-going attitude of mine, I am labelled a proud child, lacking humility, an immature sadist.

I dislike living my life as a replica of someone else so I do things I love – makeup, style my hair, do my nails, try to look good and all but here’s the hot part, I am made to feel like a whore; like there is some boy out there who is going to pass me by when it is time for marriage, I am made to see myself as a fool who is tossed about by all she sees and hears, anything that trends. I am confused as I am constantly compared to the extent that I have lost sight of who I really am within and the woman I want to be.

Often I seek to explain the state of things or the reason for either an action or reaction of mine but I am yelled at or struck in the face for being frontal or overly expressive. I am taught that the woman must always be submissive and must never fight against the oppressive clutches of patrilineal society. On a few occasions, I’ve been told, ” if you feel that this house is too restrictive for you, pack up your things and leave to wherever you feel is best for you!”

I swear to the God who made me that I am at such a heart shredding point in my life where I could make attempts on my life. I could just take a last breath and humbly bow out of all these storms, sorrow and regret associated with defining one’s self and growing up.

I wonder if and when I will ever get past this phase. Thus, with the dawn of each new day up until midnight night, my little palms clasped together close to my chest, I pray as each second ticks – FATHER LORD, HELP ME, PLEASE DON’T LET THE LAST LIGHTNING BUG INSIDE ME DIE, GUIDE YOUR LITTLE GIRL CHILD TO ACHIEVE ALL HER DREAMS!

Introduce Yourself (Example Post)

This is an example post, originally published as part of Blogging University. Enroll in one of our ten programs, and start your blog right.

You’re going to publish a post today. Don’t worry about how your blog looks. Don’t worry if you haven’t given it a name yet, or you’re feeling overwhelmed. Just click the “New Post” button, and tell us why you’re here.

Why do this?

  • Because it gives new readers context. What are you about? Why should they read your blog?
  • Because it will help you focus you own ideas about your blog and what you’d like to do with it.

The post can be short or long, a personal intro to your life or a bloggy mission statement, a manifesto for the future or a simple outline of your the types of things you hope to publish.

To help you get started, here are a few questions:

  • Why are you blogging publicly, rather than keeping a personal journal?
  • What topics do you think you’ll write about?
  • Who would you love to connect with via your blog?
  • If you blog successfully throughout the next year, what would you hope to have accomplished?

You’re not locked into any of this; one of the wonderful things about blogs is how they constantly evolve as we learn, grow, and interact with one another — but it’s good to know where and why you started, and articulating your goals may just give you a few other post ideas.

Can’t think how to get started? Just write the first thing that pops into your head. Anne Lamott, author of a book on writing we love, says that you need to give yourself permission to write a “crappy first draft”. Anne makes a great point — just start writing, and worry about editing it later.

When you’re ready to publish, give your post three to five tags that describe your blog’s focus — writing, photography, fiction, parenting, food, cars, movies, sports, whatever. These tags will help others who care about your topics find you in the Reader. Make sure one of the tags is “zerotohero,” so other new bloggers can find you, too.

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